I’ll Show You Your Future- Just Show Me Your Friends

The Bible makes it clear that where we end up in life is not an accident- it is largely a result of the relational path that we put ourselves on.  The trajectory of our lives- our well being and the fulfillment of our God-given potential- is directly related to our associations.

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. (Proverbs 13:20)

Those that we bring into the inner circle in our lives affect our attitude and our altitude.  They influence whether we see the glass as half full or half empty.  They give us ‘bounce’ or take away our ‘bounce’.  Studies have even shown that a person’s financial prosperity can be predicted by averaging the income of their five closest friends.

While it is unreasonable to expect constant encouragement, lift and energy from those we associate with, is critical that we ask ourselves occasionally if the net influence of someone in our lives is positive or negative.

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So what are the qualities of a person that has a net positive impact on your life? Here are a few from my list:

  1. Mutuality- The relationship is not always one-way- they will also watch out for you.
  2. Grace- They make allowance for your imperfections.
  3. Support- When you fall down they will be a restoring influence in your life.
  4. Wisdom- They model good decision making (even if they don’t get it right every time).
  5. Comradery- They are good travel companions because they share your values and mission in life.

Question: What qualities do you look for in business associates, ministry partners or friendships? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

PS- For more help on this subject check out “Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good For You and Avoid Those That Aren’t” by Cloud and Townsend (Zondervan)


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