Ever get hit hard by disappointment? It can destroy you, or you can use it as a launching pad for a better and brighter future!
In Psalm 142 we find David hiding in a cave as a fugitive, saying “With my voice I cry out to the Lord. With my voice I plead for mercy to the Lord. I pour out my complaint before Him, I tell my trouble before Him. When my spirit faints within me, You know my way. In the path that I walk they have hidden a trap for me, look to the right and see. There is no one who takes notice of me, no refuge remains for me. No one cares for my soul.”
David was at a point in his life where he had been abandoned. He was alone, and in that cave he was in all kinds of despair. His soul was troubled.
This is a microcosm of what you will experience in your lifetime. There will always be people, situations and circumstances that cause deep disappointments in our lives. We live in a broken world, so sometimes people hurt us. Even when people are at their best, they as creatures can’t give you what the creator can. Life has a way of bringing people to the point of overwhelmed by despair at times. That’s how life works- no human being and no set of circumstances can give you what you really need. A lot of people vaguely dissatisfied with life, wondering if anyone or anything will ever give them what their soul craves for.
You need to come to the point of confessing your misplaced hope in others and going directly to God. What you need in terms of love and security can only be found in God.
Let’s continue on in the Psalm (142). “I cry to you, oh Lord. I say, ‘you are my refuge, my portion in the land of the living.’ Attend to my cry, for I am brought very low. Deliver me from my persecutors, for they are too strong for me. Bring me out of prison, that I may give thanks to your name. The righteous will surround me, for you will deal with me bountifully.” David had learned to look to the Lord rather than other people to satisfy the deepest needs of his soul.
There is a noticeable point in our lives when we realize that we won’t get what we need from other people and/or circumstances. We get angry, we withdraw into depression, we rebel, we try to manipulate people to get what we want, or we play the victim. At the worst, people commit suicide because of this. They end up believing that the love and security they need are unavailable because they never got them from other people, and they fall into despair. Alternatively, people can slip into destructive habits that help them to escape their disappointment, or they strive socially to always be at the top of the pecking order, always taking and never giving in their relationships.
In order to live free you have to give up the expectation of people around you to give you what only God can give you. You need to go to God; there you will find love, security and affirmation. There are times when God gives us some of that through people in our lives – and we should thank Him for that – but at the end of the day, they won’t have everything you need.
God would say, ‘Turn to me. I am what you are seeking. Sometimes you may receive a portion of my love from another human being, but you will never receive it all from them. If you could, you would never let go of them and turn to me.” God wants us to turn to Him for the healing of our hearts and the ability to live free.
Isaiah 51:12-13 says: “I am the one who strengthens you. Why should you fear mortal man when he is no more enduring than grass? Have you forgotten the Lord who made you, who stretched out the heavens and laid the earth’s foundations?” God says, “I am the one who strengthens you.”
So you will have a choice when disappointment comes in your life from other people. You can let it lead you into despair and bitterness or you can push deeper into the true source that God provides. He wants to give you everything you are seeking in life- and that is ultimately found in Him.