One of the biggest factors in getting refuelled and staying refuelled is deciding who you allow to influence you– and in what ways you allow them to influence you. The book of Proverbs makes it clear that not only will we encounter people that are wise and supportive to our life mission, we will also encounter people people that are unwise and detrimental to our life mission.
Careful choices need to be made about our associations because these choices will determine our destination. One of the biggest factors that drains people’s tanks is not correctly dealing with difficult, draining or distracting people with wisdom. On the other hand, one of the factors that accelerates you towards effectiveness in your life mission is surrounding yourself with resourceful, reinforcing, and revitalizing people. Proverbs helps us to identify the types of people we are dealing with and what the appropriate relational responses and strategies should be.
How carefully are you monitoring who you allow into your inner circle? Are those that you choose to spend time with helping or hindering your life mission? What changes do you need to make in your associations in order to have a better future?
Proverbs 13:20 says: “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise. But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Watch who you give your time and attention to, and who you don’t. Expect to become more wise and able to handle what life throws at you if you allow wise people into your inner circle. Expect harm to come into your life if you allow people who consistently make foolish decisions into your inner circle. If you want to know what’s in store for you, look at the people who are closest to you- the people who’s opinion you esteem the most. What your associations think, do and say will be what you will tend to think, do and say. Become toxic by hanging out with toxic people, and godly by hanging out with godly people. This is often a difficult yet critical choice.
Proverbs 14:7 says “Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge.” This is not very politically correct, yet it is true and contributes greatly to living a depleted or a revitalized life. It is not easy to put boundaries, restraints or endings to friendships, but it is a critical choice we need to make if we want to increase in knowledge. Increasing in knowledge is critical if we are to make the most of our short lives on earth.
Proverbs 20:19 says “Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler.” Sticking with the theme is Chapter 4 verse 14, which says “Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of the evil. Avoid it; do not go on it- turn away and pass on.” Watch who you spend time with and look up to.
I have found that the quality of my life increases when I increase my time with quality people! Conversely, when I have too much time with negative people I can easily predict that the quality of my life will spiral downward. When I invest time with people who are going the same direction as me and/or are people that I can learn from I find that my energy/motivation levels increase, I am more focused on what is important and I make more progress towards goals that I value and cherish.
These days I am getting more intentional about who I associate with and it is paying big dividends over the long haul. I hope that you will do the same!
Q: In what ways have you seen your associations affect your destination?