We’ve all been offended by the intentional or unintentional words of others. We like to nurse an offence. We like to pull it out over and over again and look at it. We like to tell anyone who will listen to us about it. We allow it to corrode our joy.
Proverbs 19:11 says, “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offence.” Good sense tells you to let go of the grudge. We have the ability to control our spirits. There is not only wisdom in this, but glory as well. Letting an offence linger can affect your full field of vision. It makes you focus on the past rather than on building a brighter future.
Overlooking an offence requires a conscious effort. It requires looking above and beyond what you may find troublesome in order that you can focus on the good things that God wants you to focus on.
As a football coach I know how important it is to ‘coach the eyes’. Players will go where their eyes are directed. If a player is aiming to get past a blocker to the ball carrier they are in trouble if they are fixing their attention on the blocker. As the saying goes, they end up ‘playing patty-cake’ with the blocker. This means that they stop and engage the blocker rather than just seeing the blocker as a speed-bump on their way to the ball carrier! If they are going to be effective, they need to look past the blocker so that they find a way past the blocker and put themselves in a position to make a tackle.
The same is true of offences- when we look at the offence we become distracted from God’s best for our lives!!
Proverbs 12:16 says “the prudent ignores an insult.” The next time you’re insulted, be wise and completely ignore it- don’t let it fester. That’s a spiritual discipline.
Proverbs 15:1 says, “a soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.” If you have to say something, say it with love- whatever you do, don’t come back stronger and more arrogant, or you will make it worse.
Proverbs 10:12 says, “Hatred stirs up strife. But love covers all wrongs.” We have the choice to allow hatred to dwell in us and bring strife around us, or to love, bless, and pray for people. That choice will eliminate the effect of the offence and give us the freedom to move forward.
The more adept you become at overcoming an offence, the greater your potential to go high and far in life becomes! Here is to living an offence-free existence!