To forgive someone means that you will not hold a grudge against that person, not seek revenge, and not foster angry feelings. It does not mean that you must “forget” the provocation. It does not mean that you entrust yourself to a person who will probably do harm to you again. It does not mean that all hurt, angry feelings will automatically and instantly evaporate.
Forgiveness is an act of the will, not of the emotions… The act of forgiveness becomes part of your self-talk, which affects your work in recovering from the painful memories or feelings.
Forgiveness is not only for the benefit of the person who hurt you, it is essential for your own well being- without it bitter feelings intensify and do physical and emotional damage to you… We are called to forgive; the healing comes from Him.